I feel that the typical struggling yeshivah-guy's annoying and scary tayvoh for schmutz is mainly powered by two things:
1- the fact that we have sexuality - that part is not going away. It's an instinct. Not to compulsively go and find porn, though. That's not an instinct at all. But to be excited by it and feel something intense from it - that's natural and part of the human body/heart. Put in Torah-lingo, 'Yesod' is connection. It wants to bring everything together and connect it to something that will make it all meaningful and make it all 'work'. We feel that tendency as it is expressed in our bodies as very real. We are fooled to think that is it's true expression. It is not. Lust and Zera levatolah connect us to an abyss - an insatiable, gaping hole that leads only to the inability to make any real connections, at all. Eventually, we become disconnected from our very selves. (If you are so inclined, see the beautiful way the AA book, "Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions" treats natural instincts gone overboard, in Steps 4-7. A good read. I believe I heard similar ideas from Rav Noach Weinberg, zt"l.)
Thankfully, it is not the main power behind compulsive schmutz-use.
2- The pain of dissatisfaction with life, fear that things will not get any better, and being pathetic. Torn hearts from poisonous relationships, sometimes from abuse in our youth, or fears that plague us for whatever reason. The pain of Disconnection and futility that many folks feel is ubiquitous. It seems to be part of the human condition. And like the air we breathe, we do not even notice that it is the backdrop of too much of our lives. It creates an emptiness that pleasure (or sometimes, pain) seems to mask effectively.
Are we calmly happy when we are alone and all is quiet? If we are, then we generally do not need schmutz-entertainment to drown out the noise of the nay-sayers under our beds. We may desire lust entertainment or even masturbation from time to time because of #1 (we are not dead yet!)... but we will not feel we need it day in and day out. Hey - it feels good. That's why there is s'char for not doing it, like lots of other things that we may desire!
Addicts probably have these things too. But they seem to have sold themselves to the drug. I am one of them. You do not seem to be sick in the head as I am. You seem to be a man who is human, not perfect, definitely not dead yet (till 120!).
So get chizzuk, look into the things I wrote above, and stay in contact with others like you who are struggling and need to learn how to focus on the good life, not with those who just sit around and want to talk about the problem. Yechhh. The guys who talk of making the struggle against tayvoh and zerah levatolah as the focus of their lives need to be avoided like the plague. The more we focus on it, the more we identify with it and the more we get dirtied with it, till we get destroyed, c"v. (Lot's of s'forim say that, but people seem to ignore it cuz they just get carried away with the struggle.)
Remember, the G'morah tells of Tannaim who thumbed their noses in disdain at the YH in some fashion (I think it's near the end of Kiddushin). The YH was given r'shus to resoundingly embarrass each of them and to personally tell each of them that the YH is potentially more powerful than people - even great people. Even non-addicts need Hashem to help them with the YH and with their bodies, and with their lives. A bit of real humility is key, here. Without it, I think it is hopeless. Just do not become a shmateh, either (except for Hashem to use!).