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"Shtarkandemotional" writes on the GYE forum (click here for the full thread): I’m a very frum Jew in yeshiva and in a very meaningful and emotional relationship with a very frum girl... We’re both yeshivish background and it’s a secret! I never thought I would be posting...

The Chabad Lubavitch community has taken a historic step forward in combating child abuse, child sexual abuse and abuse of adults. A prestigious group of international Lubavitch Rabbinical leaders, many who are Rabbinical Judges, have signed a proclamation addressing abus...

Many people tell me that I am not an addict. After all, has my addictive behaviors caused terrible harm and consequences? Have I lost my whole family?  Have I contracted AIDS? Have I given someone else a sexually transmitted disease?

Dear GYE, I hope you can help me out. I’ve been clean for about 40 days now, and when I’m in Yeshiva, it’s hard but nothing crazy. The problem is, whenever I leave Yeshiva, I get destroyed. I try not to look at girls but whenever a girl is around my mind is only on her. I...

QUESTION: I just came home from summer camp, and I found out my little brother got an iPod with unrestricted internet on it. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do because I myself have unlimited internet. I'm scared he's going to end up like me. Can you help? ANSWER: Are y...

A 15 year old boy writes: It's like waiting FOREVER till I actually have an opportunity to touch a female, even my wife?! GYE responds: Time passes faster than you can imagine. Meanwhile, focus on growing. Sex is optional, we may want it very much, but we can live fin...

A girl asked us: This is a bit embarrassing but I have this desire to look at my Israeli cousin's non-tznius friends online (Facebook & Instagram). Is this coming from a place where I wish I could look as good as them, or is it the yetzer hara trying to get me to lo...

FrumHangOut.com (FHO) A project of GYE for teens run by teens FHO is a safe place for teens to express themselves, get chizuk, and answers. There's a place for articles, to ask big rabbi's questions, and a message board/forum - a place where teens can write things and ...

“Do thoughts about other boys/crushes disappear when you are married?” More than one boy-crazy girl has asked me this question. In other words, “Will marriage cure my boy-craziness?” Since I’ve been asked similar versions of this question more than once now, I thought I’d...

Hi. I'm 15 years old and I care about Hashem a lot, but why should I stop hanging out with girls? GYE Answered: Please see page 15-16 of this booklet called "Dear Bochur". It would be better if you read from page 9 already, to understand more about the issue. And if y...

A 14 year old boy wrote: So I started doing the TaPHSiC Method, and I ended up falling, so now I have to tell someone about the problem. I'm thinking either my dad or my Rav. What I wanted to know is how to do it. I'm sure they'd both be understanding, but I'm still not s...

I want to share something in the name of a Rabbi that my friend spoke to. I found this very inspiring: A person has two basic and opposite pulls inside of him/her: 1) Taava = wants/desire 2) Hakara = recognizing and getting close to HaShem. The Rabbi explained that Taav...

Dear Mother of Boys, Great question! Here's the thing. Sins are not like parking tickets--where the violation is clear and the fine is established. In the spiritual realm, Hashem judges each person and each sin according to their specific circumstances. What could be cons...

Our Reply: Dear Bewildered Tzadik, it is good that you are reaching out for help. Although we get tens of emails like yours every day, your email shook me up. Firstly, because of the statistics you quoted (75%!) and, secondly, because of how you make it sound: as if the...

My Rosh Yeshiva, ztzl, used to reminisce about his days as a child on the Lower East Side. Often, he would come back from school and his father would ask him, ‘Noach – did you remember that Hashem loves you today?’ ‘Yes’, was the young boy’s usual answer. ‘Well done, his...

A nocturnal emission is something that occurs by itself, against a person's will, and therefore the person is not considered to have committed a willful transgression and there is no punishment involved. Nonetheless, t'shuva is certainly appropriate, especially if a pers...

This morning, as I was driving to work, cars zipping by me, a furry little squirrel streaked in front of my car. I gasped, but it was instantaneous. Looking in horror in my mirror, I saw its crushed body, saw it lift its head confusedly and fall limply back down. My heart...