A fellow struggler writes on the forum of jewishsexuality.com:
I am not very educated in these things, but from my own experience and struggles I can at least say: G-D is very true and frequently helps you when you ask for the right things (in the right way)!
Every time you look at the sexual side of a woman, you do something that brings you away from goodness again. It is important to learn how to not look at women, and if you have to, only into the eyes!! It is very, very, very hard (as I have learned), but it will help you in many ways. Always look at the character of the people, not the appearance. That is the right way