I am powerless over lust - it makes my life unmanageable. If I am truly and completely powerless, there must be One that has power (otherwise I may be atheist). That One in my life is God (Hashem). Today I believe 2 critical things. (1) That God will and always does decide the outcome of anything and everything in my life; and (2) That God does not invest in crappy investments. He invested over 30 years in making me and He is a good investor.
Knowing this, it is not my responsibility to understand, or my job to figure it out. All I have to do today is ask (another person or my sponsor), "What does God want from me RIGHT NOW?" Nothing in the great big future or deep dark past is going to change the "right now".