The more you are attached to Hashem, the less you will be attached to Lust. The problem really is that the Torah we learn, the yiddishkeit we live, and everything else we have, simply does not teach some of us wackos how to do that! It just teaches us that we are obligated do that! Many of us need to take a step back to Derech Eretz: simple emunah, simple self-honesty, and simple ego-busting. That's what the steps give me so far. There are probably many ways to get that, and there may be other solutions besides what I suggest altogether. Stick with the winners is all I can say. So far, things are looking pretty good to me.