For my wife, the best day of our lives together was the day she realized that I had started to change. It was after about a year of sobriety, soon after my 4th & 5th steps (which incidentally, I felt I had done a lousy "job" on). We have never watched our wedding video since I got sober, and it's been a bunch of years... She has no interest in it because it pales in comparison to what is going on now. We are really a unit today (though far from a perfect one).