The big book says the obsession of every alcoholic is to drink like a gentleman. The obsession of every lust addict is to lust like a gentlemen. Isn't it a pity I can't peek at porn, I can't watch provocative movies, and I cant peek at the pretty candy on the street? What is life all about then? B"H the 12-Step program gives us a new purpose in life. Then I just act like a Torah Jew. No hirhurim, no histaclus, and I am a happy and tranquil Jew.