Chevra,
See the picture below. We have a choice of two pairs of Glasses to wear in life.
The "Dark Pair" of Glasses that have been practically welded to our head after years and years of living our OWN Design for living.
Or the "Rose Colored" Glasses that we get by working the 12 Steps, which are guaranteed to bring us closer to others and to G-d.
Come on, try them on and tell me which pair serves you better.
The Choice is YOURS!