These two brief vignettes underscore the importance of attending to deficits in the sense of self, in addition to the deficit in gender identity, when helping patients who suffer from same-sex attraction. Despite the objection of some therapists to what they term “self-pity,” it is insufficient to merely exhort patients to “move forward” and “don’t dwell on the past.” It is imperative that they work through the rage and grief resulting from existing for the purpose of gratifying their parents’ narcissistic needs rather than their own developmental needs.
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