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“I’ve had a wonderfully healthy childhood, how did I get this thing called 'sex addiction'?” is one of the most common questions asked of sex addiction professionals. The truth is, according to Dr. Patrick Carnes, sex addiction is not about sex. It is about core feeling...

Rabbi Avrohom Feuer will be joining us on Duvid Chaim's 12-Step phone conference 12 PM EST - Wednesday December 2nd, 2015. The theme of the call: Yosef HaTzadik Triumph over Temptation How did this abandoned teenager pull it off? Special - “Ask the Rabbi” Q&A aft...

At this opportunity I want to wish you Mazal Tov on your daughter’s recent marriage and to apologize for not having attended due to pressing public issues which had to be attended to. May [both couples] be zoche to build a bayis neeman beyisrael מתוך אהבה ואחוה שלו' ורי...

וישא את עיניו וירא את הנשים - לג:ה The best way to be careful from forbidden gazing and thoughts is by occupying the mind with divrei Torah. Rav Wolbe writes in Alei Shur that when one thinks in learning, it is a koach that can protect him from seeing pritzus. In C...

There are three things to consider: 1) First of all, from a spiritual perspective, no Jewish person wants to live in the mud. Your soul is crying inside you, begging you to remember why you came down to this world for this short life-time that will affect your ETERNIT...

Confiding and sharing your struggles is very important, but the people you share with should be “safe”. Experience shows that the people who can help you the most are those who have been there themselves. On GuardYourEyes you can connect to a whole community of brave st...

"It's hard because I sit in the office all day in front of the computer". "It's hard because my wife is assur to me now" "It's hard because the women out there dress like that!" "It's hard because I am sometimes so lonely... tired... hungry... anxious.... I feel so vulne...

Our addiction makes us blind to potential pitfalls. If you search deep inside you, you will see that you are justifying something that you KNOW is bad for you and dangerous. What we feel is "good for us" and makes us feel "warm and secure" is the very thing that will ki...

It doesn't really matter how long you can stay clean for. The question is, why do you keep doing it if you don't want to? This is an indication that you may have some level of addiction. Now there are many levels of addiction, and some of the lighter tools on GYE can help...

The short answer is, it is indeed likely that the abuse you underwent is connected to your current addiction. See this article for more WHY. But here is a longer thought for victims of molestation, both male and femlae: Nobody deserves to be abused, especially by people...

The Niddah period was given to us by Hashem as a big gift to help us GROW UP. It’s a gift, a way to strengthen the married couple to build a non-sexual bond in addition to a sexual one. By forcing us to be married WITHOUT sex, we learn that marriage is about giving, s...

For practical suggestions read this article. Although it may not be directly assur for women, masturbating is definitely not within the confines of "Kedoshim Tihiyu", a command including women to "be holy". Masturbation feeds the power of self. Not only that, it ...

Hear ye; hear ye! When the tayvah comes a brewin' And the desires begin stirrin' Need a checklist of actions to do some churnin' To get rid of this fire that's burnin' First things first, say it out loud Scream it from the rooftops; it's not the time to be proud (hear t...

Because addiction is complex, it’s not always clear for individuals with the condition, or for those around them, to know they’ve developed a drinking problem. In many cases, denial can keep a person from realizing their alcoholic tendencies even as it ruins their life...

Dear GYE, I am a frum married woman who has joined GYE a few weeks ago. I've been struggling to find a sponsor and direction as well as a 12 step group that would be the right fit for me. I have never wanted to go to a mixed SA meeting, but just yesterday, I have spoken...

The article you brought from The Guardian was powerful. I tried to identify for myself what it was about this particular article that spoke to me. I think it's the sense of futility that comes through from the eyes of an outsider. The addict himself is blind to the real...

The root of addiction is dishonesty. The addiction says "I can't live without it", but the truth is that I'll be just fine without it.