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I don’t think anyone wants to put their marriage in jeopardy. In fact, we’ve heard from several readers that the only reason they “allow” porn in their marriage is to try to save or enhance it. They don’t want to push their husband away by putting “unrealistic expectation...

Miri writes: Hi. Your organization seems to be wonderful and helpful to many people. Hashem should pay you all back thousand-fold!!! I am not sure if you can help me with this but I'm a bit stuck and not sure where to turn right now. I had a sexual experience when I was...

Well, I am at day 36 and, thank G-d, still clean. This experience has been tremendous. For the first time in my life, I have had whom to reach out to for help: people who really understood me, having been through it themselves. Unlike speaking with a therapist, where ther...

Thank you for your website. I have definitely learned some things. It was especially helpful to me and my wife to speak honestly about the issue. We had spoken before, but this website gave us much more clarity. I felt I could be more open with her since I felt she h...

GYE Responds: First of all, there's no such thing as a disgusting being. Hashem doesn't make junk. He has a plan for you, and it's better than you can imagine! The feelings you express are very common for addicts, and I feel your pain and confusion. A few points c...

A Woman asked: After being married for 2 years, I found gay hookup apps on my husband's phone. This was tremendously shocking and heartbreaking. We are dealing with it well but I feel totally tricked (into marriage) and betrayed. Also, my brother had known this whole time...

I was a guy who used to fall multiple times a day. Recently, I've been working really hard on myself and, with the help of GYE, I was able to stay clean for 6 months straight! After a recent fall, I opened up to my wife about it immediately, and she was able to take it a ...

We have enjoyed your emails for over a year. Your emails were a lifeline when my husband needed it. Thank you so much for being a support for us in a time of need. How special it was to know that my husband was not the only one going through this. Hashem should give you k...

When I first joined GYE, I was clean for 90 days. I was thrilled... Then I got complacent. I kept reading the material, which eventually fizzled out, and then the chizuk emails began to seem unnecessary for "someone like me." So I canceled the emails with the excuse "wha...

I was a guy who used to fall multiple times a day. Recently, I've been working really hard on myself and, with the help of GYE, I was able to stay clean for 6 months straight! After a recent fall, I opened up to my wife about it immediately, and she was able to tak...

Married and love to watch some steamy porn together? Be warned, as frequent pornography use can sound the death knell for your happy marriage. According to the researchers, pornography is associated with a substantial increase in the probability of divorce for married p...

"Neiroyair" sent an email to GYE as follows: Dear GYE, My wife sent me an email this morning (maybe it could be of service to others): My dear husband, I know that we both spend a lot of time on the family, taking care of the kids. But we don't spend time just...

From 9:30 last night until 2 o'clock in the morning, my wife and I were building a new large closet. For the first hour and a half our children were helping. But then, obviously, it was bedtime... I am very tense about various things in my life: making money; how I fit i...

Dear Rabbi Brody, I was one of the participants in the conferencecall/shiur you gave our group who are working on trying to break free from sex addictions. I can't thank you enough. For a long time, I was really down on myself and the more depressed I'd get, the worse I'...

On ******, 2015 4:26:18 PM **********@gmail.com wrote: ... The ladies on GYE are well meaning but I have no good reason for keeping the marriage at this point. I need their support but I do not understand why they don't get out also. Do you have guidelines on how...

The article you brought from The Guardian was powerful. I tried to identify for myself what it was about this particular article that spoke to me. I think it's the sense of futility that comes through from the eyes of an outsider. The addict himself is blind to the real...

Porn ruined you. Ruined us. When people asked, shocked, how I could leave such a funny, clever man, father of my children – “a good earner” as my mother put it – what could I say? I said it was me. My fault. I’d changed. Only it wasn’t me. It was your love of porn that s...